You’re a young senior citizen in your early 50’s and you have just been pushed out of an important job that provided safety and security. How do you feel?
Some people will try to encourage you and say, “It was meant to be. A new door will open. There’s a reason for everything” and they are right, but those words only make you feel a little better.
Losing a good job when you are not ready is scary–especially when you don’t have a mate to support you. Even if you do have a mate or someone else to take care of you the loss can be devastating and the worry is extreme. None of us want to lose our independence and dignity.
At first, your insecurity looms large, and you begin to doubt your talent and ability. Most of all, you feel rejected. It’s understandable that you may begin to punish yourself. You think, “I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t stand up for myself. And then you get angry and think, “Why didn’t they appreciate me? They will never find anyone with my experience. They didn’t consider my feelings.
You may be right, but that doesn’t matter — what does wallowing in your own self-pity do for you?Not much! It only brings depression, lack of self-esteem, and self-imposed mind spinning, that is mostly illusionary.
The one real thing that we have in our favor when life seems impossible is believing in ourselves. We cannot give up our identity or what we have built in our lives because we lost a job. We will only know our strength when we are challenged. If we have been strong and competent before, we can be strong and competent again.
We need to review and value our past accomplishments. We must understand that we can learn anything if we can hold on to our self-esteem. We didn’t lose our intelligence, we lost a job. We didn’t lose our dignity, we lost a job. We are as young as we think we are. What we think we become and what we believe we are! If we are physically and mentally healthy we can conquer anything we put our minds to.
Its not about obsessing over your loss, it’s about exploring a new or similar career. It’s about exploring a career that makes your heart sing. It’s about catching yourself when your nerves and anxiety takes over, as nerves and anxiety get in the way of your spirit and enthusiasm.
Whenever we are challenged we must feel that there are always possibilities. What we were before, we can be again, and more. When we can hold on to ourselves and reinvent our lives, we are never alone and lost.
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